Most
of the calls I receive in my office for marriage help come
from women who are tired of doing all the work in their
marriage. They have asked their husbands, over and over
again, to get into gear and take more responsibility for
the relationship...
3.
Want
A Happy Marriage? Be Nice - Don't Nitpik.
True
Compatibility
Doesn't Exist, so Shrug off Little Conflicts
By Jeanie Learch Davis – senior writer for WebMDhealth
www.webmd.com
Thermostat settings. Dirty
socks. Toothpaste caps. Our little habits make our spouses
crazy. But no two people are ever truly compatible, so
quit nitpicking each other, relationship experts advise.
Save the battles for the big issues -- and you'll have a
happy marriage. This article does a masterful Job of
summarizing what we do with couples that we do not think
we could have done better ourselves.
4.
How
To Pick Up the Gloves In Marriage and Fight Well -
"Body Basics!"
By Jay
Timms and Lawrence Stoyanowski and Darren Wilk
Call
it a fight, call it a discussion, call it whatever you
want. But let’s be honest. The truth is that in every
marriage there is fighting. No matter what you think,
there is no such thing as the Cleavers or the Cosbys. That
being said, if it happens in every marriage, why is it
that there are some couples who seem to enter and exit the
ring gracefully while others seem like there is never a
break between rounds? The reason is that some people have
learned the secrets behind fighting well and others are
just swinging away hoping to connect....
5.
Seven
Relationship Tips That Will Help Now.
Dr.
John Gottman
Since
1973, Dr. John Gottman has studied what he calls the
"masters and disasters" of marriage. Ordinary
people from the general public took part in long-term
studies, and Dr. Gottman learned what makes marriages
fail, what makes them succeed, and what can make marriages
a source of great meaning. By examining partners’ heart
rates, facial expressions, and how they talk about their
relationship to each other and to other people, Dr.
Gottman is able to predict with more than 90% accuracy
which couples will make it, and which will not. What
advice does Dr. Gottman have to offer? Below are some of
his top suggestions for how to keep your marriage strong.
6.
The
Relationship Cure- a summary of John Gottman"s Book
Dr. John Gottman and his
wife, Dr.Julie Schwartz Gottman, are the world's foremost
researchers in understanding relationships. They invite
couples to come into their research laboratory and talk
and argue about topics of their choice. They wire the
couples up to sensory data machines and analyze the
videotapes frame by frame to understand the complexities
of human interaction. Gottman follows the couples long
term to see who stays together. He can predict which
couples will stay together after nine years with 90%
accuracy after hearing just three minutes of their
arguments!
Gottman found that there are basic verbal reactions that
bond people together and cement relationships. He has
identified the emotional command systems that people use
to try to gain attention and love. He calls this the
bidding process.
Positive bids are words, questions, gestures, looks, and
ways of touching that reach out to the partner to say,
" I want to be closer to you." The emotional
needs that are met by bids includes (1.) to be included,
(2.) to have a sense of control over their life and (3.)
to be liked.
7.
Helpful
Statistics and research on domestic
abuse.
This is a compilation of information helpful to women and men
who are experiencing domestic violence. written by Heather
Bowden.
8.
The Art of Compromise
The following Article Explains the principle
of Aikido: Yield to win. In the Japanese Martial art Aikido, the
idea is that direct opposition, two forces opposed, is a BIG
mistake. We must yield to win. The truth for marriage is
this: YOU CAN'T BE INFLUENTIAL UNLESS YOU ACCEPT INFLUENCE.
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