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Challenging Relationships |
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Extraordinary
Relationships |
| 1. |
We
seem to have a pattern of
arguing about the same things. |
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We
quickly identify, negotiate and resolve our differences and move on. |
| 2. |
I’m
tired of doing all the work
in this relationship. |
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We
both take responsibility for the success of this relationship. |
| 3. |
Sometimes
I feel more like a roommate living a separate life. |
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We
are best friends and we share intimate moment’s everyday. |
| 4. |
I
don’t feel attractive to my spouse. |
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I
know that I am adored and attractive to my spouse. |
| 5. |
I
feel held back like I am trapped in a prison. |
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I
can’t wait to be at home and hang out with my partner. |
| 6. |
We
don’t seem to date anymore because there’s so much on the go
right now. |
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We
make time to go on special outings together on a regular basis. |
| 7. |
I
don’t feel I know my
spouse’s dreams, fears or aspirations. Everything feels like small
talk. |
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We
share intimately and I know my spouses current fears, dreams and
aspirations. Our communication is awesome. |
| 8. |
We
do not have the same interests. |
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We love doing so many of the same
things. |
| 9. |
I’m
not happy with my present
role in the home and do not feel like we are on the same page. |
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We
have come to agreements on roles in the home and both feel happy
with our current responsibilities. |
| 10. |
We
seem to have different values
and chosen paths with very little in common. |
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We
know each others values and goals and compliment each other
perfectly. We talk about where we are going and how we are both
integral to getting there. |
| 11. |
Our
sex life is very seasonal.
(once in the spring, once in the winter, etc) I want more than just
mundane obligated sex. |
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Our
sexual relationship is vibrant, fun and fulfilling. |
| 12. |
Our
personalities and needs seem
to be far apart and incompatible. |
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I
understand my spouse’s personality differences and needs and we
ARE very compatible. |
| 13. |
I’m
tired of not being able to
share my thoughts and feelings without being attacked or blamed. |
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We
freely share our thoughts and feelings in a respectful and honoring
way all the time. |
| 14. |
My
partner frequently complains,
nags or criticizes to try to change me or get their way. |
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I
am completely free to be myself and know that I am accepted and
supported unconditionally, including all my decisions. |
| 15. |
I
feel Like I am always the one
chasing after my spouse to be close to them. |
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I
feel comfortable with the amount of space between us and no one is
trying to avoid closeness or intimacy. |
| 16. |
I
feel like our relationship has
stalled. |
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I
am in a relationship that is constantly growing and evolving. |
| 17. |
There
is too much bitterness and
resentment that I can’t seem to forgive or let go of. |
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I
have learned to forgive and move on from past and present hurtful
issues. There are no resentments or regrets in this relationship. |
| 18. |
I
do not feel like I can be myself
and take opportunities to look after my needs or pursue my interests
without guilt. |
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I
can totally express myself in this relationship and I am encouraged
to look after personal needs, pursue my interests and follow my
dreams. |
| 19. |
Since
I have been in this
relationship I no longer have a social life apart from my spouse and
kids. |
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I
express my independence and have developed a fulfilling balance
among family, spouse and other relationships outside the home. |
| 20. |
I
have a hard time respecting my
spouse. |
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I
look up to my spouse and respect who they are and what they stand
for. |
| 21. |
I
have a hard time trusting my
spouse. |
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I
have no problem trusting my spouse and it seems like there are no
secrets. |
| 22. |
I
am tired of being wrong all the
time. |
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I
feel that my ideas are always listened to, appreciated and
respected. |
| 23. |
It
seems like my relationship is
held together by shear determination and will power. |
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Even
though this relationship takes work it feels effortless and natural. |
| 24. |
I
do not feel that my differences
or deficits are acceptable to my spouse. I do not feel good enough. |
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I am
cherished and esteemed for my differences and strengths and I do not
have any concerns about what my spouse thinks of me. |
| 25. |
I
wish there were more meaningful
activities we developed and did together that made a difference in
our world. |
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I
enjoy doing meaningful activities with my spouse and in some way we
have joined together for the purpose of making a difference in our
world. |
| 26. |
I feel like I have to avoid all
sensitive issues to keep the peace. |
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No
issue is off topic and I can bring up just about anything no matter
how personal or sensitive. |
| 27. |
I’m afraid to ask for what I
want. |
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I’m
free to ask for what I want. |
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28. |
We don't have the same sense of humor. |
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We
enjoy each other's company and laugh freely and frequently together. |
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I can’t remember the last time I heard verbal praise or I love you. |
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I
get plenty of verbal praise, appreciation, encouragement and I hear
I love you more than enough. |
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30. |
I find more fault than potential in this relationship. |
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I
see value and an extraordinary future in this relationship. |
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