Gottman Endorsement of Darren Wilk and Lawrence Stoyanowski

To Whom it may concern,

This letter is written in support of Mr. Darren Wilk and Mr. Lawrence Stoyanowski. Both are Certified Gottman Therapists in excellent standing with The Gottman Institute (TGI).


Both Lawrence and Darren are TGI senior trainers. They are two of our thirteen Master Trainers worldwide.

As speakers and presenters their aim is to help facilitate, and inspire other clinicians to blend the Gottman Method into their practice and realize the benefits of this wonderful modality. They have presented numerous times in different Gottman trainings and workshops which include The Art and Science of Love Gottman Workshops (ASL) as well as teaching Level One and Two Gottman Method to other clinicians, and delivering presentations at the Annual Gottman Conference. Both Darren and Lawrence are also certified to train clinicians in Level Three of the Gottman Method. Their leadership roles and experience at The Gottman Institute includes being Certified Gottman Therapists, Certified Gottman ASL presenters, Level I & Level 2 & Level 3 Gottman Method Trainers, Gottman Media Consultants and ASL Presenter Trainers.

They are both strong presenters with great depth of knowledge, much experience and a wonderful sense of humor. Their evaluations from therapists and couples over the years have been stellar.

We do recommend them highly.

If I can be of assistance to you in any way, or if you are needing additional information please feel free to contact me at any time.

Alan Kunovsky
The Gottman Institute

The 10 Habits that Keep Marriages Strong

The key to wedded bliss isn’t over-the-top romance, but these surprisingly simple practices you can do to stay – or fall back – in love with your partner. By Holly Corbett,REDBOOK.

Not trying to change each other

Maybe you wish he folded his socks, or that he would chat it up with your friends without prompting. But, his inability to notice hair in the sink may stem from the laid-back personality that drew you to him in the first place. “One of the things we see with happy couples is that they know their partner’s differences, and have pretty much stopped trying to change

the other person,” says Darren Wilk, a certified Gottman Couples Therapist with a private practice in Vancouver, British Columbia. “Rather than trying to fight their partner’s personality style, they instead focus on each other’s strengths.” To better understand how to tap into both of your best qualities, take this quick relationship personality quiz.

Framing your demands as favors
Whether you want him to unload the dishwasher more often or pay closer attention to the kids, your partner will be more likely to change his behavior if he feels like he’ll get relationship brownie points. “Throw it out there like a favor. Present it like ‘here is the recipe for what will make me happy,’ because everyone wants to make their partner feel happy,” says Wilk. “When you present your needs, present them as what you do want rather than what you don’t want.” Instead of saying, “I hate when you have to have everything scheduled,” try saying, “I would love to have a day where we can just be spontaneous.”

See rest of article by clicking here. 

Finally Gottman Level 2 is in Canada

Finally for the first time Gottman Level 2 training called Assessment, Intervention & Co-morbidities

January 30 to February 2, 2011 (4 days) is being offered in Canada and more specially Vancouver.  Darren Wilk and Lawrence Stoyanowski are two of only 8 Senior Gottman Therapists worldwide endorsed to present this workshop.  It will now make getting certified that much easier as Canadians will not have to travel to Seattle to deepen their understanding of this wonderful modality.

New Website Launch

We’re excited after more than five years to show off our new website! The new look also sports some new features as well, so you can expect us to continue with frequent updates. We plan to continue featuring helpful articles as well as keep letting people know about our upcoming couples’ workshops and training seminars. Of course, our popular online assessment tools are still here, but with a fresh new look we’re sure you’ll appreciate.

(Thanks go to, who we chose for this project and can heartily recommend — our new site actually went from zero to surf in just a few weeks!)

Go on, browse around and see if there might be something here that you’ve never seen before!