Marriage Tune-Up Program

Gottman Certified Couples Therapy Goals

Extreme Marriage Makeover Program

We recognize that many of you are feeling stuck and do not even know if you feel like working on your relationship. This is normal and many couples start here. All that is needed is a desire to make it better even if the loving feelings are just a distant memory. 

Program length : Three to four months. After this we suggest a maintenance coaching program.  

Cost: $400-700 (CAD) a month.  Think about it in the same way as vehicle maintenance, not always fun but necessary and you feel much better afterwards. 

We invest more into our cars than we do on the most important decision we have ever made.... you're Marriage!

 Hourly rates are available. 

This includes: 

• Individual face to face counseling sessions in our Langley, BC office to re-establish a foundation for your relationship. This is usually necessary because of the intensity of the issues and emotions involved in resolving these early problems. 
  *For those at a distance we will use tele-counselling to get to the same results. 
• We have developed our counselling/coaching approach around the research of John Gottman (see www.gottman.com ) who has spent 35 years studying what works in relationships. This scientific 'nuts and bolts' approach to working with couples ensures that you are provided with tools that get results.  
  

Topics will include...

1. Understanding personality differences 
2. How to build passion and love back into the relationship
3. How to solve or dialogue effectively about any issue you face
4. Learning about love languages and how to discover yours  
5. How to process failed bids for connection
6. Building a shared meaning system that propels you into a more fulfilling future. 
and more>>>

• Email interaction and projects. 

• Access to a clients only area of the web site to research further into the Best Marriage material, assessments and forms provided.

You will learn: 

• How your personality styles effects your relationship and what to do about it

• How to identify patterns such as the "closeness/distance dance", "control/responsibility", "it's not you it's me" concept, "Artist/scientist", and the "conventional vs unconventionality dilemma"

• About simple negotiation techniques 

• How to identify and find antidotes for the "Four Horsemen; Contempt, Criticism, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling."

• About your “Friendship Profile”, the “Conflict Profile”, and the “Shared Meanings Profile”.

• How to resolve the "physiological flooding" and anxious feelings that accompany many relationships

• To successfully dialogue about grid-locked conflicts

• Establish six social skills necessary for effective conflict resolution.

• To love unconditionally with no strings attached

• Stages of forgiveness and how to apologize and mean it

• How to deepen the  'friendship System" 

• How to develop and create a shared system of values and meanings.

We also offer professional advice and guidance on dealing with...

• Affairs, depression, addiction, trauma and violent behavior.

You will be expected to ..

• Do weekly homework 

• Participate fully in all appointments

• Commit to having a better relationship

• Inform your coach if you are not understanding something or if he is missing something.

If this is where you are at and you like what you see than please 
do not hesitate to give us a Call to set up an initial consultation.

Call our office at 604-539-5277