jay@bestmarriages.com   

Jay Timms has been working with families since 2002. Currently, Jay is one of the few researchers in Canada who is exploring the relationships between fathers and their children, and is in the process of creating parent training seminars and workshops based on this research. As a dynamic therapist and motivational speaker, Jay’s direct and honest approach allows clients to see alternatives to their current life situations.

For marriage and relationship counselling, Jay applies principles of the Gottman Method of couples therapy which is based on Dr. John Gottman’s twenty-seven years of research in what makes marriages succeed or fail. From his research, Gottman has created a therapy that emphasizes a “nuts and bolts” approach to improving your relationship. In your work together with this method, you will learn specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to solve resolvable problems and to dialogue about “grid-locked” or (perpetual) issues. Jay will also work with you to help you appreciate your relationship strengths and to gently navigate through it’s vulnerabilities.

Jay also works with individual adults and youth who face a variety of challenges. Having worked within school districts in the Lower Mainland, Jay is aware of many of the challenges facing youth and teens. Being a parent, husband, and previous business executive, Jay is also keenly aware of the challenges facing individuals who are burdened by daily stresses and just can’t seem to get out of the “rut”. Recently Jay has been using a technique called “One Eye Integration” with his clients, which has shown incredible results for PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and other life-long challenges.

Jay is a qualified Music Therapist, and has spent many years working with various individuals. His experience includes working with teens, parents, couples, mental health issues for the Ministry for Children and Family Development (including depression, anxiety, risk of suicide, and sexually intrusive behaviors), addictions, geriatrics, individuals preparing for death, and grief and loss.

When Jay isn’t at the office, he enjoys spending time playing musical instruments, photography, skiing and snowboarding, riding his bike, and “hanging out” with his wife and 2 children.

"Because families are forever"